Canadian Parents of Murdered Children (CPOMC)
If you are the parent of a child who was murdered, you are likely coping with many challenges and grief: it is normal to feel grief over a loss that is entirely unique and beyond what any parent should experience. This grief is made worse by feeling isolated and alone. While it is important to seek support, it is also important to remember that you are not alone and that you are not to blame for your child’s death.
The support system of the family of a murdered child is much larger than that of a child who dies from an accident, has a mental illness or has been the victim of a crime that does not involve the loss of life.
The CPOMC is a non-profit organization whose mission is to provide parents, siblings and others coping with the death of a child with information and support, and to raise awareness about violence towards children and the importance of prevention. The organization is run entirely by volunteers and receives no government funding.
Emotional struggles and the aftermath of a child’s death leave a mark on the family and friends of the victim.
The loss of a child is devastating. The grief is unique to each parent and each family. While some parents grieve in silence, others are overwhelmed by anger and rage. If you are the parent of a child who was murdered, you may be coping with a combination of feelings. If you are coping with anger or rage, you may want to seek help. Your anger may be directed towards the person who killed your child. Or, you may be angry at yourself for not being able to protect your child. Some parents of murdered children struggle with guilt, wondering if they could have prevented the death.
The impact of a child’s death on a community is huge and takes time to begin to process.
When a child is murdered, the impact is felt not only by the immediate family, but also by the community. A CPOMC organization is a support group for parents whose children have been murdered. This organization allows parents to connect with each other and share their stories. Parents often find comfort in the fact that they are not alone.
There is no single way to deal with the loss of a child.
Parents who have lost a child to murder face an incredibly challenging time, and may be coping with grief in a way that is not at all like what you experienced before the loss. CPOMC parents may experience feelings of intense anger, frustration, and helplessness and are at high risk for developing post-traumatic stress disorder. If you are coping with grief after the loss of a child to murder, ask your doctor or therapist to refer you to a local support group.
A child's death has a lifelong impact on the victim's parents and other family members, as well as the community.
The grief of a parent whose child is murdered is unlike any other loss. A parent whose child is murdered is not just grieving the loss of their child, but the loss of a relationship that they will never have again. The grief that parents experience after the loss of a child is complicated and unique, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
A child’s death is a reminder of how precious life is and how much we should value our children.
The murder of a child affects not only the family, but the entire community as well. When a child is murdered, the family is left to grieve the loss of a child and feel helpless to bring them back. The CPOMC organization is a group of parents whose children have been killed by violence. The organization is committed to helping other families coping with the devastating loss of a child.
The memories of losing a child are very difficult to deal with.
The loss of a child is never easy to deal with. While some parents can grieve and move on after a miscarriage or stillbirth, others struggle for years, often for decades. Losing a child to murder can be the most devastating experience a parent can go through. The grief and mental anguish that parents of murdered children feel is often worse than the grief of parents who lose their children due to natural causes. CPOMC parents struggle with extreme grief, depression and anxiety, sometimes for years.
While most parents lose a child to illness, not violence, it can still be devastating. A parent who loses a child to violence is often struggling with grief, which can make it difficult to speak about their loss to others. The loss of a child can also bring about feelings of shame and guilt. The CPOMC organization recognizes that parents who have lost a child to violence may struggle with feelings of helplessness. It is important to talk about your feelings. It can be helpful to seek support from friends and family.
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Canadian Parents of Murdered Children (CPOMC)